Wedding tip – Easy way to write great vows

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This is for all the couples struggling to write your vows. Sue and my difficulty with this was almost comical. Hate may be slightly too strong a word, but suffice to say we were not too fond of each other’s opinions regarding the vows.  We struggled for a while for sure.

But somewhere between the thoughts of “I can’t believe he/she wants me to say that” and “could I be any cheesier?”, we came up with the following approach. I share this because our vows ended up so special, that they are mentioned on a fairly regular basis by friends and family.

Our secret was to turn the process around. Rather than writing what we wanted to say, we wrote what we wanted to hear the other person say. A huge weight came off our shoulders, and we were free to write what we wanted to hear rather than what we thought the other person would like to hear.

Then we combined the two versions and pulled out the very best of both. I think the whole process took us less than an hour and had us both feeling excited about the wedding and each other.

Hope this helps.

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Wedding tip – a place just for you

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This is my very best wedding tip. Somebody told us this and since I never read it in a wedding book, I feel compelled to share it with other couples.

Between your ceremony and reception, after all the photos and before the drinks, spend 15 or 20 minutes in a room that you have set aside just for you. Drink some water, have some wine, get bite to eat and generally take in what you just happened (Holy Blankity Blank was our reaction). Ladies (and some gents), you can take a moment to refresh your makeup and both of you can take a deep breath before heading back out.

The actual wedding day is so much about seeing your family and friends so that room is really one of the few places where you can relax and be together. Assuming you have drinks and appetizers for the adults and maybe something to distract the children, then your friends and family won’t miss you at all.

And the room set up makes a perfect assignment for the aunt, sister, or friend who really wants to help but you really don’t want to deal with on your wedding. Tell him/her how important this is and they will be on it for a good long time.

Trust me on this – having this time will be very much appreciated on your big day.

The Beauty of Crying Babies

Inevitably in any family portrait session, the little ones will start crying.  The children will either get tired, stub a toe or just not get their way.  Most of the time, the parents get anxious or nervous and try to sooth the baby.  Usually, there is a “I can’t believe he/she is acting this way.”  That’s natural of course.  But as a photographer, I think those are some of the best opportunities for memorable photographs.  There is something so real, so gut wrenching about seeing a photo of a baby crying.  I don’t know about you, but when I look at these pictures, I can almost hear the cries and taste the tears.  I just react in a way I don’t normally do with your regular, amazingly beautiful photograph.  Maybe its because I’m a dad but I don’t think so.  I think there is something hardwired into our human nature that just compels us react to a crying baby.

With this in mind, I thought I would start a collection of crying babies.  Here are the few that I have so far.  I’m sure more will follow.

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What’s the similarity between shooting kids and cows?

Yesterday I had coffee with Unnikrishnan Ravendranathan (Unni). A young photographer from India with an amazing eye for story telling.  His work is always beautiful and often disturbing.  His home page at http://www.unniphotography.com/ currently greets you with an image of a bloody cow from his series on underground butchers in India.  You want to look away but you really can’t.

Oddly enough, we spent a good portion of our time talking about the challenges of photographing children and families.  Unni is comfortable simply approaching heroin addicts in the Tenderloin and cancer patients in India to get their picture, so I chuckled a bit when he said “That was hard” and “man I was exhausted” in describing his first family session (which came out amazing BTW).

But what struck me is the underlying similarities between our work.  I shoot kids and families and he shoots cows, addicts and cancer patients – vastly different worlds but we both approach the subject in very similar ways.  If you listen to his interview on the Candid Frame, Unni describes how he finds many of his edgy projects by simply finding someone to talk to.  “People are people and they just want to talk” he says.  He gets to know them and then starts taking their photos.   Now he is also a well trained photographer so he is constantly looking for elements (light, shapes, lines, backgrounds, etc.) that enhance the drama and story of the pictures.

I believe good family photography requires the same thing – you get to know the kids and the family, see where they work and play, look for the best light and try to capture an image that says something about what makes the family special or unique.  And while like any “documentary” photographer, a family photographer ought to leave the viewer with a sense of the family’s story.  After all, one of the main reason’s to hire a family photographer is to document what the family is like in this moment.

Absorbing FAces by Unni

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Absorbing Faces by Unnikrishnan Ravendranathan

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My Partners

With the new year, I thought it might be nice to give props out to the companies that I use to run my business.  I am a one man show so I rely heavily on these services.  I went with each of these because they offer simple, powerful solutions and they are backed by a community of users and developers.

My “team”:

  • WordPress based website:  I use the Kertez Theme by Marc Fuller.  Simple, easy to use and flexible.  Plus here are many thousands of people constantly developing new plug-ins for the Word Press Platform.
  • Adobe Lightroom for processing photos – easy to use, huge community of users and brilliant presets.
  • Smugmug.com and Bayphoto for my photo management and fulfillment – Many, many child and family portrait photographers and even more wedding photographers use the Smugmug system to manage their photos.  Their system is simple, constantly being updated and customizable.  Plus there are a network of smugmug user groups that give me access to the best in the business.  Bayphoto is the lab that prints my work.  Excellent quality and service and since they are in Santa Cruz, shipments to San Francisco where most my clients live, is practically overnight.
  • ShootQ.com for booking sessions and managing the photography workflow – this is my newest addition to my structure team and it has been a life savor.  In just a few days, I implemented a system that allow me to book 70+ portraits sessions in less than a week.  No more hassles with billing, contracts or wondering what needs to be done for shoot or print job.

Check them out and let them know I sent you.

Gift ideas from a photographer and for a photographer

For anyone looking for photo gifts there are the basics:
  • Standard Family Photo Products – Prints, books, calendars
  • Less than standard photo products – mugs, t-shirts, mouse pads, magnets

But if you want to get creative, this out side of the box:

  • A year in photos – hire a family photographer to meet you multuple times throughout the year.  Best way to create albums and calendars for gifts and keepsakes
  • Grand Parents photo session – instead of just giving pictures to them, have the grandparents be part of the photographs.
  • Photography lesson – lots of great online places or you can ask a photographer for a private lesson (I charge $175 for three hours).  Great idea for the parent with a new camera
  • Large Canvas print – really want to blow your inlaw’s mind?  Get them a +24″ canvas print.  They will not stop talking about it.
  • Card player in the family? Get a customized deck of cards
  • Photo Apron – for the cook in the family
  • Personal Paparazzi – set up a night complete with dinner and elegance.  Have a photographer follow you around to capture your version of celebrity.
  • Guided Photo tours – part photo lesson and part tour of your area.  Learn where local pros get their shots.
  • Boudoir session – not my specialty but there are a good number of photographers that can help you capture that special look for someone special

(Then there is the Bordeaux session – where we drink a lot of wine and take pictures that range from elegant to buzzed to silly.  That I can do.)

Happy Holidays

The Best Photo Gift Ever

I want to share with you the single best photographic gift I have ever given: the family calendar. Sounds cliche and a bit old school in the age of the smartphone but it works wonders. I make a version for my family and my wife’s family and then give as presents to every family member (1 per household). What started out as a simple gift is now actually anticipated by relatives. More than once this year I’ve heard “I’m so glad you are doing this again” and “it has a special place in our house.”

You can see a draft version of my family’s 2010 calendar here.

Putting these together is not as easy as you might think. The calendar should be of a certain photographic quality and be interesting to everyone in the family. The east coast family doesn’t want to see month after month of the west coast family no matter how good the pictures are and a simple collection of snap shots doesn’t attract anyone’s attention.

This all takes time and energy – two things that not everyone has this time of year.

Since I believe people will love this like my family has, I’m offering a calendar service.

I will:

* Collect birthday and anniversary dates
* Collect photos via secure email system
* Arrange monthly collages (more than just throwing pictures together)
* Set up an online review system
* Order and ship the calendars to whomever you like

You give me the emails of people that you would like included in the calendar and I will do the rest.

Price is $150 for the set up + $25 per calendar (11×17).

Typically these take about 15 business days to complete and deliver. (5 for assembly/proof, 5 for processing and 5 for shipping). Expiated shipping and processing is also available for additional fees.

The last day to order these is Dec 5th for standard rates and Dec 10th for the expiated processing.

If you have any questions or would like to place an order, please call me at 415-948-3959.

Happy Holidays,

Joey

Holiday Card Special

For anyone looking for a last minute gift or holiday card.

$175 for a half hour to an hour shoot anywhere in the city.

Includes 25 5×7 cards or 50 4×8 cards with envelopes.

Over two hundred card choices.  You can see a few samples here.

Call 415-948-3959 to set up a session.

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Doh!! – Should have hired a photographer

My wife’s 40th Birthday party this weekend made me really think about the benefits of hiring a photographer.  We rented a fabulous house on the ocean in Stinson Beach (about an hour north of San Francisco) and invited about 20 of her good friends for a weekend celebration.  Sue prepared a wonderful spread of picnic food and everyone brought drinks and appetizers.  There were kids everywhere and we had great time.

Naturally I brought my camera and had every intention of documenting the event.  I did take a few shots but when I got home, I didn’t have a one that I wanted to save.  I mean there were a couple – but definitely nothing that captured the grandeur of the moment.  This was a once in a life time event after all.

So what happened?  I’m a good photographer and I had good equipment.  The results should have been better.

First off, I didn’t prepare properly.  For any photo shoot, you want to think about what results you want and how you are going to get them.   That means thinking about who the important people are and where and when you are are going to shoot them.  I knew everyone I probably didn’t need a list but I needed to think about how I was going to get the shots.  I should have spent time walking around the house looking for interesting back drops and seeing where the light was and potential reflective areas.

Light is crucial for photography.  Too much or too little can destroy a picture.  Not the right kind makes the picture look flat or washed out.  The point is, when you are on a job, you are constantly looking for light and ways to manipulate it.  I’ll move people around, wait for them to get in the right place, use reflected light from slides, walls, pools and other reflective sources.  And some times, the light only last for a few minutes so the photographer has to anticipate where it will be and how to use it.

But this was my wife’s party.  My priority was taking care of her and our guests, keeping Lucius (our 2 year old) out of danger, and having a good time of course.  Chasing the light was a lower priority and the results showed.  Event photographers don’t have these distractions and can focus of getting the best light and shots.

Maybe there are a few great photographers that can go from party mode to photographer mode but I’m not one of them.  Getting in the mind set of seeing the pictures takes some time and when you are focused on a party you will naturally miss a lot of great pictures.

I should have hired someone to take pictures of the party.  That would have been a couple hundred dollars very well spent.

Hiring a Photographer – No need for wedding bells

Most people think of hiring a photographer only for weddings, graduations and those yearly trips to the Sears for the family portrait.  But with prices falling for all things photography related and the abundance of excellent photographers, there is no reason to limit yourself and the possibility of getting some really great images.

A few suggestions…

*  Photo session for visiting family (i.e. Grandparents) – great way to spend a couple hours and will create gifts for years to come.  Do it at a park, playground or someplace where the children and relatives can play together.

*  Calendar project – hire a photographer to come at different times over three to four months.  You get enough photos to create a 12 month calendar with variety.  Another great gift idea.

*  Themed session(s) – What is your child doing right now that you would like to preserve?  A few months back and just prior to his second, my son started to climb, climb, climb.  I was amazed, my wife horrified.  I took a series of shots of him climbing at playgrounds and framed four of them for our living room.  Makes for a nice story about him at a certain time.  Other themes might include walking, reading, swimming, swinging, cooking and really anything else that you child loves to do.  Probably requires multiple photo sessions.

*  Play groups – Chances are you have a 3-5 family play group.  Hire a photographer to shoot one or two of the gatherings.  Kids will be in their best/most animated and you can divide the cost up between the group.  You can also roll this into a Mom’s session.  If your family is anything like mine, you spend as much time with your new playgroup friends as you do with your old friends.  That should be photographed

*  Birthday Parties – Let’s be honest, 1-5 year old birthday parties are getting out of hand.  How many kids really need a bouncy tent or magic show at the party?  But since that sort of money is being spent, why not add a couple hundred more dollars and hire a photographer to document the day?  Works also a gift idea and a group could put it together to divide the cost.

*  Personal Paparazzi – Have a photographer follow you around town for a few hours just like a movie star.  Creates fun, different-then-your-average day shots.  Perfect in conjunction with a hot date.

*  Fashion Shoot – get glammed up and have fun.  Be as naughty or nice as you like.

Overall, keep it simple and have fun.  Ask around about photographers and look at their web sites.  You should be able to find someone willing to do one of these smaller projects.  But don’t demand the world – you aren’t going to get a team with lighting kits, back drops and the entire kit-and-kaboodle.  Go with one person, willing to work with your vision and interested in a spending a few hours with you, your family and friends.

You won’t regret it.

Joey