This is for all the couples struggling to write your vows. Sue and my difficulty with this was almost comical. Hate may be slightly too strong a word, but suffice to say we were not too fond of each other’s opinions regarding the vows. We struggled for a while for sure.
But somewhere between the thoughts of “I can’t believe he/she wants me to say that” and “could I be any cheesier?”, we came up with the following approach. I share this because our vows ended up so special, that they are mentioned on a fairly regular basis by friends and family.
Our secret was to turn the process around. Rather than writing what we wanted to say, we wrote what we wanted to hear the other person say. A huge weight came off our shoulders, and we were free to write what we wanted to hear rather than what we thought the other person would like to hear.
Then we combined the two versions and pulled out the very best of both. I think the whole process took us less than an hour and had us both feeling excited about the wedding and each other.
Hope this helps.
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